Morality vs Reality
Posted by Dr. Christo A. Scheepers, Ph.D. on Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Under: Personal Growth
Morality versus Reality; what an oxymoron you might think, but is it?
Morality is seen as the good versus bad decisions, choices and behaviours people make on a daily basis and includes things like ethics, business ethics, morals and principles. Is morality a religious list of rules and regulations? No, definitely not, although basically all kinds of religions and spirituality do have a moral code linked to it trying to improve human life and social existence based on doing the "right" thing and making the "right choices".
Reality on the other hand is seen as the bottom line; the truth about something without any pretence and make belief. No false hope, no misperceptions and no disguising; just the honest truth.
Morality is suppose to shape your reality by providing direct guidelines on where to go and what to do, but what happens when morality comes face-to-face with reality and a decision should be taken between morality and reality? What do you choose; do you choose morality or do you choose reality? The very next question will be, do you really have to choose between the two? Can't they just co-exist?
Your choice will probably depend on where your moral values are rooted in; are they based on past experience or religious beliefs or on society's expectations? When you know why you believe something and adhere to a certain moral code instead of just following it blindly, it will create a major paradigm shift in your thinking processes and behaviour.
When reaching a point where a decision was made and you embarked on a certain path accompanied by behaviour not usually associated with who you thought you were, you have reached a point of morality versus reality in your life. The point where you realise your perceptions about yourself and your reality might not be what you thought it was. Making a decision and choosing behaviour when morality head-on collides with reality and they are two opposing forces competing for your attention, you have come to a point of re-analysing your life. The time has come to look at the past decisions and behaviours causing you to end up where you presently are and where you want to go, because if you do not make certain adjustments in your life, you will be exactly at the same place with the same results in your future.
When you find it difficult to make ethical decisions and your morality becomes clouded by the harshness of your reality, you should be prepared to face life, acknowledge where you are and what you want and then make a decision based on your own conscience since you are the one that will have to face yourself every day knowing what choices you made, what behaviour you lived out and what path you have decided to walk on while dealing with the consequences thereof; good or bad.
Morality vs Reality; do you just make decisions based on morality since it is what is expected of you by society or do you live your life and make decisions that will work for you based on your reality, what will work for you at a specific moment in time in the current realities you are facing?
Whatever you decide, keep in mind you are the only one living your life; you are the one having to make your own decisions and take the responsibility for the consequences. No one else will. Society is not there to pick you up if you made the wrong decision even though society may want to prescribe what decision you should take, at the end of the day you are the only one that will have to deal with the consequences.
What decision do you take when morality versus reality is actually a choice between society's perceived happiness versus your own happiness? Do you place the needs of others above your own or do you for once put your own above those of others? All very interesting questions and you are the only one able to answer them for yourself, because nobody else have lived your life and had your unique circumstances to deal with for the extended time you have been dealing with it.
Never allow anyone else to make decisions for you, because you are the one living with the consequences. You are the one that will have to make a success of your life after each decision. When you allow someone else to make decisions on your behalf, you are setting yourself up for tremendous frustration and unhappiness, because you are responsible for your own life. You have to take charge of your life and direct it where you want it to go.
Morality versus reality should not be seen as a good excuse to procrastinate and not make the necessary decisions. When avoiding the inevitable and postponing the making of decisions you are setting yourself up for fatigue, stress and a lack of energy. Stop procrastinating, face reality and make the necessary decisions.
Whether those decisions will be based on morality or not will largely depend on what you want to achieve by making the decision and what outcomes and results you are expecting, but the reality will be that making the decision has to be done.
Morality versus reality; you decide!
Morality is seen as the good versus bad decisions, choices and behaviours people make on a daily basis and includes things like ethics, business ethics, morals and principles. Is morality a religious list of rules and regulations? No, definitely not, although basically all kinds of religions and spirituality do have a moral code linked to it trying to improve human life and social existence based on doing the "right" thing and making the "right choices".
Reality on the other hand is seen as the bottom line; the truth about something without any pretence and make belief. No false hope, no misperceptions and no disguising; just the honest truth.
Morality is suppose to shape your reality by providing direct guidelines on where to go and what to do, but what happens when morality comes face-to-face with reality and a decision should be taken between morality and reality? What do you choose; do you choose morality or do you choose reality? The very next question will be, do you really have to choose between the two? Can't they just co-exist?
Your choice will probably depend on where your moral values are rooted in; are they based on past experience or religious beliefs or on society's expectations? When you know why you believe something and adhere to a certain moral code instead of just following it blindly, it will create a major paradigm shift in your thinking processes and behaviour.
When reaching a point where a decision was made and you embarked on a certain path accompanied by behaviour not usually associated with who you thought you were, you have reached a point of morality versus reality in your life. The point where you realise your perceptions about yourself and your reality might not be what you thought it was. Making a decision and choosing behaviour when morality head-on collides with reality and they are two opposing forces competing for your attention, you have come to a point of re-analysing your life. The time has come to look at the past decisions and behaviours causing you to end up where you presently are and where you want to go, because if you do not make certain adjustments in your life, you will be exactly at the same place with the same results in your future.
When you find it difficult to make ethical decisions and your morality becomes clouded by the harshness of your reality, you should be prepared to face life, acknowledge where you are and what you want and then make a decision based on your own conscience since you are the one that will have to face yourself every day knowing what choices you made, what behaviour you lived out and what path you have decided to walk on while dealing with the consequences thereof; good or bad.
Morality vs Reality; do you just make decisions based on morality since it is what is expected of you by society or do you live your life and make decisions that will work for you based on your reality, what will work for you at a specific moment in time in the current realities you are facing?
Whatever you decide, keep in mind you are the only one living your life; you are the one having to make your own decisions and take the responsibility for the consequences. No one else will. Society is not there to pick you up if you made the wrong decision even though society may want to prescribe what decision you should take, at the end of the day you are the only one that will have to deal with the consequences.
What decision do you take when morality versus reality is actually a choice between society's perceived happiness versus your own happiness? Do you place the needs of others above your own or do you for once put your own above those of others? All very interesting questions and you are the only one able to answer them for yourself, because nobody else have lived your life and had your unique circumstances to deal with for the extended time you have been dealing with it.
Never allow anyone else to make decisions for you, because you are the one living with the consequences. You are the one that will have to make a success of your life after each decision. When you allow someone else to make decisions on your behalf, you are setting yourself up for tremendous frustration and unhappiness, because you are responsible for your own life. You have to take charge of your life and direct it where you want it to go.
Morality versus reality should not be seen as a good excuse to procrastinate and not make the necessary decisions. When avoiding the inevitable and postponing the making of decisions you are setting yourself up for fatigue, stress and a lack of energy. Stop procrastinating, face reality and make the necessary decisions.
Whether those decisions will be based on morality or not will largely depend on what you want to achieve by making the decision and what outcomes and results you are expecting, but the reality will be that making the decision has to be done.
Morality versus reality; you decide!
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